Mirror, Mirror: Dealing with Comparison

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Question – have you ever compared yourself to a friend? How about to a sibling?


Shae looked in the mirror one more time before leaving to school. She smiled with approval. She liked the way she looked. Her straight brown hair was tied into a high ponytail, her hazel eyes seemed to look brighter than usual, and her navy uniform looked impeccable under the lights of her room. She fixed her school captain badge and taking her bag she hurried out the door and almost got run over by her fifteen-year-old sister, Mabel.

“Sorry Shae.” She called as she ran down the hallway with school jacket in her hand. “I spilled a bit of cereal on my blouse and have to wash it ASAP.” Then she disappeared through the bathroom door.

Fifteen minutes later Mabel finally appeared ready for school. Shae grimaced. Her sister looked perfect as usual. Her long blond hair glistened in the morning sunlight and her blue eyes smiled even when she wasn’t. Her pink bow shaped lips and dimples made her look like gorgeous model, Miranda.

“I’m ready to go.” Mable grinned and grabbed her bag.

Sighing deeply, Shae stood, grabbed the keys to her car and went to the garage.

She watched her sister put her bag in the boot of the car – every single movement was perfect. Her nails neatly filed. Her uniform highlighting her athletic legs and her blazer showed off all her seven badges announcing all her roles at school.

Shae felt a little bang of jealously as she got behind the wheel and drove off. She knew she shouldn’t feel that way towards her sister, but she couldn’t help it.

Once at school, she watched a few boys in her grade turn around and check Mabel out. She waved sweetly to them, and they melted.

Shae rolled her eyes and slammed the boot of the car. Her day didn’t look promising. A dark cloud was beginning to descend on her mood.

How does God feel when we compare ourselves to others?

Very Sad. Because you are not happy with the way He made you.

What can you do about that?

Ask the Lord to cleanse your heart and be happy as you are – get counselling or talk to someone that can help you get over this. Focus on your qualities and not on others. Journal, write and read your bible every single day. The devil is the one that feeds our minds with negative thoughts, so we need to block him.

What verse is key to not compare ourselves?

Galatians 6: 4 and 5

Don’t compare yourself with others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. You must each accept the responsibilities that are yours.

Comparing yourself to another girl is detrimental to your mental health and it will only make you bitter and resent the girl you are envious of.

You need to pray about the issue and talk to someone – God can and will help you if you ask.

And also read the armour of God every morning – that will act as a shield to your whole body, so you don’t let the devil feed your brain with lies.

The armour of God can be found in Ephesian 6:10-18 and read it out loud every morning then pray.

That’s the secret weapon.

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